Second Interview

Sara and the kids came down to California with me for my second interview.  Despite the expression on Henry's face, he had fun with Grandma and Grandpa, it work out perfect because their cousins had the day off from school so they came over on Monday.  All-in-all a good weekend.  The following week I got an offer and we decided to take the job.

Let it rain

It has been raining for the last few days, which never happens in Las Vegas.  After spending most of yesterday indoors we decided to venture into the rainy outdoors.  On our way to the park, Henry fell asleep, so while he was sleeping in the car, Maggie did a little photoshoot. She told me I could take one picture, this is her unscripted.

Breakfast

This morning Henry poured his own bowl cereal without any supervision. Somehow he got the entire contents of the cereal box to fit into his bowl.  When I found him he was enjoying his cereal with no milk.  Although if had poured milk, I am sure he would have emptied the entire milk jug in too.

CA

We visit California again this weekend for a second interview. The kids had a lot of fun with Grandma and Grandpa, aunt Tasha and cousins.  After the park Grandma took them to get frozen yogurt.

 

Henry's Shoes

 

 Awe, our little baby is turning into a little boy.  Let me paint one of the many pictures I have missed lately.

"If you want to get pumpkins," I announced, "go get your shoes!"  With that, Henry came running around the corner wearing his shoes.  Mom looked over with excitement, "Henry put on his shoes on all by himself for the first time today!"

Maggie's first day back to preschool

About a dozen blog posts are well overdue. Since we last talk Maggie started school, Henry started his potty training... very successfully I will say, we're currently expecting another girl, Emma Paige, we had another successful Richins family reunion, Henry got his first stitches, I learned how to braid Maggie's hair, we got a new van, Maggie started liking superheroes, Henry started sleeping in our bed at night, Henry and Maggie became best friends, I became very serious about finding a full-time gig, did I mention we're having another child... Sara and I got a new calling, as the emergency preparedness experts or not-so-expert, life is good, we feel very blessed... we can't imagine life getting any crazier, but I pretty sure it will. 

Camping with the Torgerson Reunion

Sara and Tasha basically planned this camping reunion.  I couldn't believe it. I have been teasing Sara about the last camping trip she planned, which somehow I ended up planning and packing for.  But this time I hardly lifted a finger and it was actually the best camping trip.  We landed in Bryce Canyon National Park, although that part wasn't exactly planned.  But it all worked out perfect.

TV the gateway drug

One evening we sat down as a family and decided to begin a grand experiment.  We decided to turn the TV off on Fridays and Sunday.  I thought it would be hard for the children but it has been infinitely harder for me in particular.  The beginning was the hardest.  I realized Maggie was accustomed to constantly being entertained.  So if the TV wasn't entertaining the responsibility fell on me to occupy her free time.  What exactly had I gotten myself into?  But after a few weeks I began to see miraculous changes.  Maggie began to self-play more.  Henry who was too young to care about TV anyway, now had a role model and began to mimic some of Maggie's self-play.

Over the months and now years it has become a lot easier.  The rules have been broken from time to time.  One Friday, I asked if we could break the rules and watch a movie.  I didn't have a single descending vote.  Of course, when Sunday arrived Maggie to proudly proposed that we should break the rules and watch TV.

Part of this rule has helped us keep the Sabbath but it has never been strictly about Sunday.  Unknowingly we create a rule that didn't plague Sunday with another "thou shalt not" but since in typical week it spans two days, Friday has been met with more disagreement than Sunday.  Looking back it was smart.  I think our kids enjoy Sundays with no TV.

The rule has only increased in spectrum as I have seen the positive effects over the years.  The break from TV has helped our children have learned to play more with each other, although not always so nicely.  We also do not turn the TV on until 10am and typically Maggie does learning time on the computer before she can watch TV.  Due to her example Henry loves learning time too.

TV really is a gateway drug.  Maggie could watch TV every waking hour.  She love it that much.  If I didn't pause it she wouldn't eat or even take bathroom breaks.  She still has fits of rage when I turn the TV off.  Sometimes I think she might start foaming at the mouth.  It is a good reminder that TV must be cautiously rationed.  No TV days actually now go smoother now than TV days.

As far a TV content goes, Maggie has a lot of shows that I dislike, such as Scooby-Do and Spiderman.  Most TV has no intrinsic value but I try not to over regulate her TV content.  There are few shows like Sponge Bob that I refuse to let her watch but for the most part I let her watch her Strawberry Shortcake.  It allows her to make her own decisions.  At first, the fact that her Dad didn't like Spiderman made it more appealing but its amazing what your children will do with a little agency because I think she has started making better and better media decisions.  It has also allowed us to talk about what makes a TV show good.   Now when I am watching a TV show without the kids, I think of her example regulating my own TV consumption.

Miss Mini Marsha Preschool

Maggie enjoyed her first year of preschool.  She just had her preschool program.  You might think she is a total ham in front of people but she often becomes a shy mute on stage.  But it just shows how much she loves her teachers and classmates because she was her natural crazy self on stage.

Maggie's moods

Some of my favorite mood swings can be found in the early morning or right before bedtime.  Maggie is an addict of TV, flipping the switch off is like stripping a tree of its limbs.  She is a social animal. At the park an older girl tells her she no longer wants to play. She curls into a ball with tears of rejection streaming down her face.  Maggie is a synchronize swimmer. After shadowing a group of teenage girls at pool they magically let her into her circle.  She is a rainbow of smiles.  She is a clown.  Dancing and sketching her face to the amusement of her brother.   She is a task master, frustrated by the late hour her family wakes.  She is censor. Demanding that her Dad not sing songs early in the morning.  She is a dancer.  Performing ballets between the pews while the chore sings.  Maggie is all moods, tears and laughter, smiles and indignation, screams and whispers of I love you.

3 days of bliss

Grandma and Grandpa made a special visit out to see us, which had nothing to do with Chad graduating from BYU.  Okay, maybe Chad gave them a little push but really they wanted to spend time with us.  Maggie and Grandma surprised me when they materialized with Sorry from the game closet.  Grandma played a half dozen games with Maggie, even Grandpa played a few.  They weren't push overs either, no victories were given to protect her princess ego and they even made her play by the rules. I was very impressed these interactions.  Somehow Maggie got Grandpa to open up and tell her stories of his childhood.  It was great hear some of his stories.  I now have a great idea for recording his personal history, just get him talking to Maggie.

They stocked us up with ice cream, fruit icicles and a little candy, to my welcomed surprise. We went on a little hike and I think I got my favorite picture of Grandpa on this trip with Maggie.  Henry and Maggie really loved it, the weather was perfect.  It was a great visit.

A day trip worth a million dollars

These pictures do very little to describe how much I love Sara today. We had had some discussion about driving up to Zion for the day.  The drive is over three hours and then a long steep hike with the kids and a shuttle ride and then the long drive home, these were only a few of things stacked against today.  The biggest hurdle was that the plans were last minute.  It is the kind of plans that Sara dislikes most.  I rescheduled my architecture licensing exam last minute, which freed up the day. And even though it seemed like a horrible idea from the beginning, I desperately wanted to go.   I hate missing an adventure.

When I rolled out of bed, I knew my Mom and sister would be hiking Angels Landing in few hours. I text my sister, and true to her word she had left Salt Lake City at 5am.  Sara had convinced me this was a bad idea but as I got dressed, I grabbed my hiking shoes, which is the first thing Sara noticed when I walked into the kitchen.  She had her running shoes on and was ready to leave for a long run, important preparations for her half marathon, which was only few weeks away.  I said, I think I might take the kids to Zion.  Sara was silent and left the room.  In few minutes she returned with her hiking boots and said, "I am not letting you go by yourself."  And off we went.  Yes, it was a long drive.  Yes, the kids were crazy.  Yes, we left the house a disaster but I wouldn't have traded today for a million dollars.

Angry Birds

I almost forgot how much I love doing emotions for photographs.  Thanks, Tonya for calling out the emotions and Laura and Megan for getting into the zone.  Henry and Maggie fell in lock and step.

Taya's gone

It was nice to have Taya with us for ten days.  We miss having her with us.   Maggie enjoyed having an older sister and another female to bond with.  She was sad when she left and it took some convincing that she couldn't leave with her.

Maggie's Artwork

Taya's visit during spring break

We went down the new discovery children's museum.  It is amazing.  We didn't get past the first water exhibit.  We walked over to the Brain Institute for lunch.  The chapel area was amazing.  Eventually we were escorted out by security.  Apparently, it is not open to the public but we managed to sneak by. 

Words

Maggie started using some funny phases.  While driving past an awful example of a modern house, she exclaimed, "What in the world is that?"  Another time, while driving home she told her Mom, "I can't hold my horses" —meaning she needed to go potty.

Henry still doesn't talk much but he can say a few words with coaching.  Still his favorite word is "heesus", which he says while pointing to a picture of Jesus.

Lucy's blessing

The Donovan's boys now have a baby sister.  Lucy is adorable and we are glad we made it to her baby blessing.  I must say, Brian's backyard is looking very nice.  The kids always enjoy running around with their cousins in their yard.  They are such good kids and Maggie enjoys being able to rough house her boy cousins, although I do think the new baby has softened them a bit.

Valentines

I still can't believe we didn't send valentines out this year.  I love making cards and Maggie loves to draw... but we were a little preoccupied.  Sara and the kids enjoyed opening a ton of valentines from family.  Next year, I promise.   Thanks for all the valentines.

Rainbow Party #4

Maggie got to celebrate her birthday in California this year.  Grandma and Sara put together a fantastic rainbow birthday party, per Maggie's request.